1. Recognize that you have talent. Not the one with your booty, no, all those other ones you have always known about but done nothing or not much with are those I'm referring to. Every person on the face of the earth has at least one major talent. Your talent is whatever comes easily to you to do which others have to work at. Which ones are yours? Drawing? Designing? Writing? Sculpting? Dancing? Speaking? Convincing people? Caring for others? Haggling? Decorating? Arguing? Physical strength? Intuition? Spend some time alone, phones, iPads and all other distractions away and simply identify what makes you uniquely you. You have it. Find it.
2. Acknowledge frankly to yourself what your problem is. Laziness? Trying to keep up with friends? Genuine poverty? Bringing up junior ones or caring for aged parents? What's your sore point? What drives you to sell your body? What makes you go on runs? Sit back, reflect and tell yourself the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. It's nothing to be ashamed of. Many have erred and found their way eventually. This is simply a step to help you find yours.
3. Know that you are not the first person in this type of situation and understand that many others have successfully found their way to self reliance. You can, too. Do you want to control your own money? Have a respectable business or job that makes legitimate money for you? Do you want to be seated amongst respectable people in the society? Be proud of yourself? Stop hiding? Are you tired of contacting diseases and terminating pregnancies? You know it's disgusting being a 'runs' girl. The indignities you face are only known by you how horrible they are. Look around you. There are ways out. You just must find your own.
4. Identify the things that you can do. Sell things? Write? Teach? Something along the path of your talent is best. That's what doesn't seem like work or stressful and you can enjoy all the time you invest in it. Draw up a list of possibilities, then zero in on that one thing you know you will enjoy. Note that it must be a viable vocation that can earn you money.
5. Research. Get data. Go on google. Read up on how others have done the same thing you want to do. Technology makes so much possible, it simply depends on how you use it. Reduce your Instagram posturing and needless fights on Twitter. Use your data to improve your life. Read. Learn. Then get ready to copy what the success stories have done. It will be hard work, but it will be worth it.
6. Search for a mentor or join progressive groups like www.divasupport.net Someone in the line that you know. Seek them out. Ask them to mentor you. Open your mind to learning from them.
7. Go to your bank. Speak with someone knowledgeable there about your line of work. It may be the branch manager or an account officer. Ask for advice on what types of accounts to open, what banking products can help your growth. Ask direct questions on their loans and the steps to qualifying for one. All these will begin to give you a path that you will follow. If you know what you have to do, then you'll happily tailor your movements in those directions and take steps that will get you to where you want to be. On the days you go, remember to dress respectably so they'll take you seriously. It's serious business!
8. Respect your money. When you truly earn it, you are usually more careful with it. Open a savings account. No matter how little your earnings are, assume you got less and save the balance. It's a mind thing. Savings build up over time and help give you a firm base.
9. Live within your means. You can look hawt and still slay living within your wage. Stop trying to compete. That has been the downfall of many women. Ditch the mindset of 'I go show them' and 'Dem go hear am when I appear'. It leads to debt and poverty. Our markets have clothes, shoes, weave on, bags, everything for all wage groups. Find yours and spend wisely.
10. Keep going! Challenges would come, but keep going! It may get tough, but keep going. Set your face forward. There, you will find decency, respect, self reliance, accolades and independence. Everyone loves and respect a hard working woman. Be one and watch your life change.
Courtesy: Ms Adunola